One of the differences between parents of the 1950s and today’s is that the former did not care what grades their children made in school. Mind you, they insisted that their children do their best, but if a child’s best was average, his parents accepted that and did nothing to make him look like a better student than what he was. Today’s parents, as a lot, seem to have great difficulty accepting less than A’s on their children’s report cards. As a consequence, they are found doing all they can to create the outward impression that their children are a cut above in the achievement department.
Doing one’s best is a character issue. When a parent does her best to ensure good grades on her child’s report cards, the report cards may in fact look good, but the child suffers in the long run. He never learns to do his best. He is disadvantaged, therefore, when faced with difficult problems. He never even really learns what he is capable of and becomes increasingly dependent upon his parents to solve problems for him. In short, while his grades do not suffer (in the short run), his character certainly does.