Dear Abby: Please reprint the list of signs of an abuser. I lost the list I had, but I think my husband is one. He calls me names like “stupid” and “slut.” He tells me what clothes to wear, and if I refuse he threatens to cut them up. When we argue, he threatens to call 911 and have me locked up. He says everything that goes wrong is my fault.
We have been married 31 years. The stress is ruining my health. I have no money and no job. He stands in front of the door to keep me from leaving or going anywhere. Should I call a hotline or try to find a women’s shelter?