Dear Abby: I have acquired two teenage stepsons. They are good young men, mature, responsible, active in community service and good in school and sports.
My challenge is their table manners. They were never taught any! They use their utensils like shop tools, lifting food using fork and knife together to transfer huge bites from plate to mouth. They use a bread knife to cut a pancake as if it were a tough steak. They slouch over the table to get their faces as near the plate as possible, while leaning on the table with one or both elbows. They don’t know where to place cutlery when setting the table, and have their napkins in their lap only if a restaurant server discreetly places it there.