Dear Abby: My wife of 45 years is having an online affair with a man who is a former business client. I found out when she inadvertently left an email message open on her laptop. Her phone records confirm daily long-distance conversations, as well. Although I know they have never met personally, they plan to meet during a weekend convention at a hotel in his hometown next month.
Despite problems in our marriage, neither of us has strayed, and I’m confident she doesn’t want to lose me nor do I want to lose her. My dilemma is whether to tell her I know what’s going on prior to her trip, or confront her when she returns with pictures taken by a private investigator. I can’t let her betrayal continue.